More often than ever, mental illness in people is overlooked. When a person claims he/she is suffering from mental illness it is either passed off as irrelevant or the person is said to be overreacting/exaggerating. Living with a mental illness is not a choice, it isn’t easy and it only gets worse when people pass such comments.
If your partner is suffering from a mental illness, don’t do the same instead help them.
You need to be patient with them, you need to be there for them whenever needed and if they aren’t comfortable with something don’t force them, be patient things will come around.
If it’s constant reassurance that they need, do it. They might ask you if they love you a 100 times, it’s only because of what’s going on in their head. Don’t get angry or irritated like others, assure them that you are there for them no matter what.
When they ask for a little space, don’t burden them with questions, just let them be they’re only figuring themselves out. Giving them space when they ask for it also shows how caring and understanding you are.
4. Putting them down
Putting your partner down irrespective of whether or not they are suffering from a mental illness is a big NO. Never make fun of your partner because they are suffering from a mental illness, never make them feel unequal or crack jokes on it. It might be funny to you but it only makes the condition worse for them.
5. Read/ Ask Questions
Read about mental illnesses and how to help people heal. Ask questions to your friends, neighbours, experts, anyone you think might have an insight into it. It will definitely help you understand what your partner is going through better and even make them feel good because you’re trying to figure their world out.
Listen to them when they are talking about their condition. It might be the 23rd time they are talking about it in the week, it just means they have finally found someone who they can trust and open up to, so listen. Listen not just to reply but to understand what they are going through better.
7. Comfort zones are vital
Under any circumstances do not force your partner into anything that they are not willing to do. Understand their comfort zones and respect them. If you really want to do something, try convincing them once or twice. If they disagree, then be patient with them and end the conversation with something as simple as, “That’s alright, we’ll do this whenever you’re ready”, this makes them feel much more comfortable and puts you in a good image.
8. Be sensitive
Notice what triggers them, keep them in mind and at any cost avoid these triggers or make sure you know what’s to be done in case something does happen.
9. Be aware
Find out what calms them, what makes them feel better and how to help them when it’s needed. Keep them company and reassure them that it will all be okay.
10. Give them constant reminders
Remind them constantly that you are there for them, that they can come to you anytime they want to and that you love them. This does not have to be done by hosting an extravagant dinner or buying expensive guests, something as simple as a text from you when they least expect it or a simple “I love you” while they’re busy at work will do.
Bonus- Have their back no matter what and always be their pillar of strength.
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