How to Be a Good Boyfriend: 20 Simple Tips

Whether you’re newly dating or have been seeing each other for some time, it’s important not to lose sight of what makes you a good partner!

Here are 20 simple ways to better your relationship and be a good boyfriend

1. Listen and let them vent

As a boyfriend, it’s not only important to communicate with your partner, but to also actively listen to what they’re saying. Sometimes your partner is looking for advice, while other times they might just want to vent. The best thing you can do is listen to what they are saying and provide support in the best way.

2. Plan dates

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together — date nights are still super important! Planning dates for your partner shows that you truly care about spending time together. Whether low-key or elaborate, the dates should be something that you and your partner enjoy doing together. 

3. Send a text during the day

Learning how to be a good boyfriend doesn’t have to be complicated. Sweet texts throughout the day or an email asking how their day is going is all you need to show that you are thinking of them! The type of communication doesn’t matter as long as you are showing your partner that they’re on your mind. 

4. Cook a weeknight meal

Why not plan to cook one of your partner’s favorite meals each week? This takes a task off of your partner’s plate and ensures that you can spend dinner together, which your partner will totally appreciate!

5. More hugs

Sex aside, things like hugging your partner, rubbing their back, or sitting close to them on the coach can foster physical intimacy that fuels emotional closeness. (More physical intimacy can lead to more sex too!)

6. Do your part around the house

Whether you live together or not, you’re probably spending a lot of time together, right? It’s important (and fair) to split chores equally. Make sure that you are both pulling your weight in terms of paying, helping out around the house, and doing other chores.

7. Do your part in the bedroom

Make sure that you and your partner are openly communicating about your sexual needs and ensuring you both enjoy your time in the bedroom!

8. Give genuine compliments

Compliments never get old, no matter how long you’ve been dating. (Especially if your love language is words of affirmation!) If you like your partner’s outfit, tell them! If you’re proud of something they did at work, let them know! Recognizing your partner for their accomplishments will help them feel supported in the relationship.

9. Respect friendships

It’s healthy to set boundaries in romantic relationships, and part of that includes recognizing that they have friends and family to keep up with. It’s important to respect the relationships your partner has outside of their relationship with you. 

10. Communicate instead of yelling

It’s no secret that yelling will only make an argument worse. If you feel like you aren’t able to calmly discuss the topic at hand, take some time to collect your thoughts, get your emotions under wraps and come back to the conflict with a more level head.

11. Put the phone away

When you are spending time with your partner, put the phone away! It doesn’t count as quality time together if you are scrolling through social media the entire time that you’re around each other.

12. Surprise them every once in a while

It’s important to be spontaneous from time to time! Surprising your partner with a date or gift every once in a while can add a fun element to your relationship and keep things fresh.

13. Take care of your hygiene

Personal hygiene is an important part of life and relationships. Taking care of your mental and physical health (including your hygiene) will allow you to be the best boyfriend you can be to your partner.

14. Express your feelings

Neither one of you are a mind-reader, so it’s important to clearly express emotions. Don’t expect them to guess how you are feeling— tell them! Your partner wants to know how to support you, but they won’t be able to if you don’t learn how to communicate whatever you’re feeling.

15. Show empathy

Being able to empathize with your partner is crucial for fostering emotional connectedness. It’s also a great way to show them support. 

16. Stay true to your word

Trust is so essential for a healthy romantic relationship. Good boyfriends are reliable and stick to their promises. If something comes up and you are not able to stay true to your word, be sure to communicate it. Being transparent with your partner is as important as keeping promises!

17. Never gossip or talk negatively about them to your friends

You and your partner are bound to have ups and downs (it’s normal), but gossiping or talking negatively about each other is never okay. Occasional venting is fine, but if you’re bad-talking them, it will throw a giant wrench in your foundation of trust. 

18. Give your partner space

Sometimes the best thing you can do to be a good boyfriend is to give your partner space. This helps them focus on self-care, maintaining relationships with friends and family, and exploring other hobbies. Healthy boundaries ensure you won’t become codependent or too reliant on each other. Independence is an important part of any relationship and giving your partner space is a good way to encourage that.

19. Be secure with yourself

Another great way to be a good boyfriend is to be secure and self-sufficient. No one wants a needy partner, which means that it’s important to work on your self-confidence and security so it doesn’t negatively impact your relationship. 

20. Learn to apologize

One of the most important skills in any relationship is learning how to apologize. If you’re unable to accept your faults and acknowledge mistakes, you and your partner won’t be able to handle conflict very well. 

Being a good boyfriend isn’t complicated! The more effort you put into your relationship, the happier your partner (and you!) will be.