Slut Shaming: It’s Not Okay.

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There have been times in the past when we’ve been okay with using words like slut, whore, hoe for women. Whether it’s been in hushed whispers or over dinner table gossips, we’ve thought that it doesn’t matter if we talk like that.

“She is one, what can we do?” has been the standard response whenever some person with morality has stood up against the use of such words.

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Here’s the deal: IT IS A BIG DEAL.

The dictionary definition of the word ‘slut’ is a woman who has sexual relationships with many men at the same time. Then can we ask that why women virgins, excuse my language if it offends you, are termed as sluts? Why are women called prostitutes when they wear crop tops and shorts with dark lipstick? Why are girls, who’ve never even kissed a man, called whores?

Undoubtedly, these terms are given to females by men who can’t have them. Or men who want revenge or are just have plainly bruised egos because they can’t see a woman doing better than them. We’ve seen examples like these everywhere in cases where a man has photoshopped a woman’s face over a nude model’s or went around the town firing up the rumor that she is a prostitute. It is disgusting, crude and simply, a manifestation of the fact of how terribly jealous a human being you are.

But the most shocking of it all is that people involved in slut shaming are not only these men but also educated, civilized, grown-up people. I’ve heard aunties in buildings sit around in groups and discuss how this particular girl meets boys every day in little dresses. Mothers asking their daughters to stay away from this specific group of girls because they’re vulgar and dirty when their only ‘crime’ might be that they hang out with guys.

And the worse is yet to come. Women slut shaming women. How can females degrade the very section they belong to? We need to realize the fact that we call other women whores, sluts, etc. just makes it okay for men to do the same thing. More often than not, we as women are responsible for the torture our mothers, sisters, girlfriends undergo.
Even if a woman might be a slut, have sex with many men or wear the skimpiest of clothes, she is still a woman. A human being with rights who deserves respect. Our clothes don’t decide the person we are. Our clothes don’t decide if we deserve respect or not. It is not society’s duty to be concerned about whom a woman invited in her body, in her house, in her heart.

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Why are men glorified when they count out the number of women they’ve been with and why are women shamed if they are even intimate in public with their boyfriends/husbands? Why are sex workers disrespected when the men who go to them are not even asked a single question? Why is being a playboy or a jock so cool?

We, as the future of the nation, need to see where we’re going wrong. How can we talk about accepting homosexuality when we can’t even embrace the idea of women being sexually active before marriage? My point here isn’t to promote sex with multiple men or challenge morals of anyone, it is very simple, very easy, a message that so many people have tried to give, that is: Live, and let live.

So stop. Stop with judging women on the basis of clothes they wear or how many men they roam with. Respect them if they’ve earned it and treat them how you’d treat humans. Stop demoralizing young girls if they decide to show their body. Stop torturing or bullying them and for one minute, consider that they have feelings too. Stop staring at them like leeches. Stop assuming that she is asking for it. It’s perfectly fine if you don’t feel the same way as they do about things but respect their opinions.

Whether she is married or unmarried, wearing a salwar kameez or a skirt, whether she is with two guys or holding hand with another girl; she is not yours until she has given you the right to do anything to her. Guard your modesty and that of those close to you, but also keep in mind that you don’t have any right to advise the same to anyone else who’s not asked for your opinion. And for God’s sake, stop using the word slut, whore, hoe, porn star, a prostitute. She’s a woman first.

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